How Does Your Relationship Rate?

These questions are designed to help you evaluate your relationship. It is only a tool! Answer the questions, then discuss them with your partner. Many of the questions have just yes/no answers. Go ahead and list some of the reasons you answered the questions as you did. If you are not satisfied with the results, you may benefit from couples therapy.

Are you and your partner committed to each other?

  • Can you discuss pertinent issues with your partner?
  • Are your life goals and values compatible with those of your partner?
  • Is your relationship a priority or a hobby? Do you actively seek ways to improve your relationship?
  • Do you believe your partner is the right one for you?
  • Do you know your own strengths and weaknesses? What are you seeking out of the relationship? What about your partner?
  • Are you satisfied with the sexual aspect of your relationship? Can you discuss your likes and dislikes with your partner? Are you sexual for yourself or your partner?
  • Are there drugs or excessive alcohol involved in therelationship?
  • Are your interests similar with those of your partner?
  • What is the nature of the stresses on your relationship? Some stressors are good (such as a move to a bigger house, a new baby, new job, etc). These take some adjustment, but normally they are not crises. High stress situations (such as a death, loss of job, etc) can put any relationship to the test.
  • To whom do you turn when you get stuck in your relationship? Do you have a stable support system?
  • Do you feel comfortable sharing your needs and fears with your partner?
  • Are there aspects of your partner you would like to change?
  • An estimated 83% of divorces would not take place if couples asked each other the right questions. Find out what you absolutely must know about the person you’re with.